If it were true....you'd feel great!

I had an experience the other day when someone very near & dear to my heart made the comment, "I am not good enough". Sadly far, FAR too many feel & even believe this lie. During a heart-to-heart with her, I made a comment along these lines, "Think about something for a minute....If that statement was true, you would feel completely at peace inside, maybe even joyful! The very fact that you do not & in fact feel pretty crumby, is telling you something."

This experience reminded me of an experience years ago with my own daughter. One day my daughter ran into my room in tears. After holding her for a minute, she was able to tell me that one of of her brothers had made a reactionary comment, "You are a bad girl". Even her telling me this made her tear up all over again. (And me to!)

I held her sweet little face in my hands & first I affirmed that she was absolutely a good girl. I told her in terms a young child would understand, that sometimes people say things they don't mean. Sometimes they don't even realize how they made us feel as they are reacting to things in their own experience. There are lots of reasons someone may say something hurtful. I told her that I did not know why her brothers had said that & it was not okay. I then told her there was one thing that I wanted her to understand here. If it were true, you would feel good right now. I asked her, how she felt (although it was very clear). She teared up again & told me she felt bad. I looked her in her eyes & simply said....."Then what he said is not true."

She looked at me for a moment. Then her whole countenance changed. She wiped her tears & simply said "Okay", giving me one of those make-your-heart-smile grins. I gave her one more hug & she was skipping off to play with her brothers again.

She had clearly not had this understanding of her emotions. How many of us do? But even at her very young age, something clicked within her little being. As she gained a level of understanding about this aspect of her energetic nature, her emotions, she was able to see the reality of a truth & of a lie, & in that, act accordingly. She just innately knew she did not have to hold onto a lie. If it wasn't true, it held no presidence for her.

What about those that have more of a connection to these non-truths that bring so much suffering & struggle to their lives; such as the near & dear I spoke about earlier, clearly connected to the belief "I am not good enough"? How do we become free of this? In exactly the same way.

This is why Energy Therapy, as I practice it, is so beautifully blessing lives. By simply having an accurate understanding of our energetic nature, (this includes the energetic nature of our beliefs & their emotional results) we see our experience for what it is. In doing so, we learn to work or move in harmony with this dynamic aspect of who we are & what we have been given. Resulting in freedom from false beliefs, clearing of limiting patterns & even past trauma. But more, we also learn to how to create more connected & fulfilling relationships, how to have more peace & clarity in our lives & how to live the lives of joy we are so perfectly created to.

So what can we learn here to help us in our current life experiences? This brings to light a very simple, very pure & very innate process we are given to live the gift of our own life, whatever our specific circumstances maybe......

#1- Your emotions & feelings are telling you something. Listen.
#2- These are innate gifts give to know truth for yourself. Acknowledge it.
& #3 - You now have a choice. Choose it.

Your emotions are gifts. As you come to understand this truly beautiful aspect of your energetic nature more fully, you will learn to move in much more harmony with this "music" & have more peace & joy in your life. Its amazing what unfolds as we simply acknowledge the truth of the gifts before us.

A simple process

What do you do when you are in the moment, experiencing someone outside of you judging who & what you are? What do you do when you feel others validated non-truth for you?

First of all, notice it! And notice how it feels. It clearly does not feel good! If others were treating you in a way that validated & honored your truth, you'd feel completely satisfied & edified.

Second, remember that everything outside of you is only a reflection of within. That's exactly what is happening. They are simply reflecting non-truth that you believe & feel about yourself right back to you. What gifts our relationships truly are! They are simply playing a great role for you here to be conscious of what you need to, to come into more truth & live it & its beautiful gifts more fully.

When you notice this, are aware of & acknowledge this truth, be very clear on how it all feels. How does it feel to acknowledge the fact that they are actually giving you a gift? A completely different experience isn't it. Be really conscious of what you are experiencing here.

Then notice, being aware of where you are still judging your truth & your gifts. From this place, make the choice to now love it. To embrace & even celebrate your truth for what it is, a beautiful Gift to you & others.

We are at a point in our progression where we are learning & living truth more fully. We are learning to use what we've been given in a place of more understanding & consciousness. We are learning to use what we've been given, to simply be who & what we are, to bless & benefit our own lives & the lives of others. Our relationships are playing such a great role in all this.

The acceptance, validation & love for truth, your truth, that you emanate is louder than any words you could ever speak. You'll be amazed at how much you will effortless improve your relationships, how others relate to you & even the health of those around you. There is something beautiful that occurs when one person knows, lives & loves their own truth. It literally opens the door for all those around them to do the same.

Its a very simple process, but yields beautiful results. Try it & experience it for yourself. Remember that you are learning, we each are everyday. And, remember that those around you are doing the same. Enjoy this simple process of living & loving your truth more fully.

It is such a gift to be able have so much more joy in the journey, as we simply acknowledge & embrace truth.

"I like reactions!" My Type 3 son

I had a great experience yesterday with my awesome & very dynamic 4 year old son. He has the amazing gift of having a dominant Type 3 (Hydrogen/fire) movement, with a secondary Type 1 (Nitrogen/air) movement. Everything this child does is BIG! And alot of the time in his expression, he can be spontaneous. Needless to say, for me, in my nature, sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed.

He had been in the house most of the day & it was showing! I told him he needed to go outside & run around, but before he did, he came up to me, leaned in by my face & made a loud silly sound & laughed. I of course took care of this before I guided him out the door, but in my feeling a bit overwhelmed, I made a comment along the lines of, "If you keep this up hun, your going to get a big reaction out of me."

He looked at me with a cute grin & said, "I like reactions!" I told him I knew he did. Then he was out the door & onto his next adventure.

I told my husband, who just so happens to have the same dominant Type 3 & secondary Type 1 organization, when he came home from work that night. We both so laughed about this! This "little" guy knows who he is & is not afraid to let the world know!

That really is a great thing. I just get to be in harmony with it! And of course guide, support & provide him opportunities to help him cultivate & use his gifts & express his energy in ways that are supportive & constructive in his life & in the lives of others.

I have been given really great insight into this. Just as EVERY parent can.

I am just so grateful that I am not having to be in this parenting thing alone. WAY more than once, I have looked up & asked, "What can I do here to help this situation & to support him?!"

And ya know what, I am always given exactly what I need to do. I am finding, that alot of the time, the most powerful thing I can do, is to simply stand in my own truth & then to not react to the situation. To not react to him as if he were the situation. But simply recognize this is his natural reaction to his experience.

As I see him in the truth of who he is & the truth of the experience he is having & reflect this back to him, he naturally comes into more balance in his energies & there expression.

One example, was even today when he got all fired up over something his older brother did. And he let him know VERY CLEARLY that he did not like it! The only thing is, he was getting ready to physically hurt his brother, so I walked over to him, physical touched his arm & looked him in the eye & said, "We can see that you are really upset. We got it. That was not okay for your brother to do that."

When I did this, when his truth in this experience was acknowledged, you could just see the intensity of his emotion & wanting to physically react, come back into a place of natural balance for him. It was pretty amazing! Great learning experience for me in how to support him!!!

Part 2 - There is more....

Now, I have definitely felt my emotion through out this whole experience. And I have even felt a sense of acceptance at times & even a deep gratitude for the many, many beautiful Gifts given me in this experience.

But, I became aware of this kind of "nothingness" or "un-feelingness". It wasn't exactly a numbness like I had felt at times. It was just something, but nothing at the same time. I didn't know what this was telling me at the time, or at least it wasn't clear for me then. I did know that it did not feel good. I live my life by the way I feel within & this was really discomforting for me.

The other thing that was really concerning to me, was how I would get so triggered by things. I would feel such a sudden, deep & intense sense of mourning, like I had at the beginning. It almost seemed like I was regressing in my processing of this experience.

So, in following my heart, I asked my Heavenly Father what it was that I needed. And I was guided & provided with exactly what I needed next.

On June 14th, Carol Tuttle did her regular weekly call-in radio show, "Living Your Truth with Carol Tuttle". With the details being so perfectly orchestrated for me, I followed the guidance I was given & listened into this call. I came in right before Carol took a live call-in from a woman who had recently experienced the loss of two of her children & of her business.

As I sat there listening, I cried tears of acknowledgment & gratitude. I knew that this call & what Carol was saying to this woman, was also a gift for me.

When I got off this call, I let my hubby know I was going for a walk! In the stillness & quiet of the beautiful area that I live, I acknowledged to my Heavenly Father & to myself, "I'm feeling it. I am really feeling it!" I then simply asked, "What do I do now?".

I realize now, that for me, this was also acknowledgment that I was willing to move on. That I was willing to progress. It turns out, this was exactly what I needed.

After this experience, I have not had anymore of those intense emotional triggered moments. I was also given a gift, even that very night, to be conscious of the fact that I have come to the acceptance & even completion with this loss. I felt such a confirming feeling & even a peaceful strengthening within me when I acknowledged this was true. When I owned it.

Why would I have reservations on moving forward? I became aware that I was indeed holding onto the suffering of this experience. And it was getting really intense so I would listen!

Now, I've been given insight into the "why's" here. At some level, I believed I still needed to suffer! Feeling that it honors & values this life if I stay here? And if I move on, it doesn't? Like it makes the whole experience more valid if I suffer longer?

In being aware of these, I simply acknowledge that they are. I just felt the feelings there. And then, I simply told the truth about it.

Which leads me into my next blog...... Yep, there is more! Read the the 3rd & final part, (which truly is only the beginning!), "Tell the truth, the whole truth."